It is a hard lesson learned but once you learn it, it can change your life! This lesson is not always easy to do but it is oh so important. And the earlier you learn it, the better off you'll be.
Words. The words you choose anytime, but especially at the time when you're angry...matter. It is a fact, that once the words you choose leave your lips...you can never take them back. They are out "there" forever. Once they "land" on the person you are aiming them at; they bruise, hurt, and scar. And scars are forever.
This is so powerful to remember, especially when tensions are heightened in divorce. It is so important to keep your cool, count to ten (or whatever other mechanism works for you in those stress-filled moments), and reconsider the words you choose, because once they are out, you can never retrieve them. As my mother used to say, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". I feel this is especially true in heated moments with an ex-spouse in divorce.
So, the next time you feel so upset (which we all do at times), reconsider your words. In the long run, you'll be glad you did!
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